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Take SHOULD Out of the Holidays

11/21/2017

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​I have this storybook picture in my mind of what a holiday should look like, and I knock myself out trying to make it happen. Of course, in this picture, I don’t have fibromyalgia.

When I was young and my symptoms were less severe, holidays meant an onslaught of out-of-town relatives, all staying at my home for several nights. I began cooking and freezing meals about a month ahead, intent on enjoying their visit rather than spending the entire time in the kitchen or (worse yet) lying on the couch.

Then came the year when everyone got the flu the minute they arrived. I spent the entire time making chicken soup, borrowing extra blankets from the neighbors, taking temperatures and distributing Tylenol. Somehow, I stayed healthy until the day they all left. But, by that evening, my temperature soared. I was in bed for the next three weeks. I swore then that I wouldn’t be at home the following year. And I wasn’t. We spent the next holiday at Disney World.

So, here’s my point:  Holidays will be what they will be. Some will work out just fine. Others may not be ideal. Either way, life goes on. It’s pointless to punish yourself with the shoulds.

My advice is to listen to your body. It will tell you what you’re capable of doing. This may be the year you have all kinds of energy, and you prepare a whole meal, including that special pumpkin pie that everyone loves. Or, it may be the year you buy a pie at Safeway (or someone else buys it for you), or you have no pie at all.  Either way, it is what it is.  Do what you can, not what you think you should.

If people congregate at your home every year, maybe this is the year to make a change. Let someone else have a turn. Or, if your house is the only possible choice, let it be known that you’re having some health challenges. This year, you’ll be happy to set the table, but others will need to bring the food. Or perhaps you’ll even delegate setting the table to a younger or healthier member of your tribe. Just don’t knock yourself out because you think you should.

If you’re in the habit of traveling on the holiday, allow yourself to reconsider. Don’t go because you think you should and regret your added pain and fatigue when you get there. Yes, traditions are important.  But so is your health. If you can do it, then go and have a wonderful time. You may forget your health issues, and be very grateful you made the effort. Only you can judge.

If your symptoms just won’t allow it, then stay at home. Call your family and friends to wish them well instead. Watch the Macy’s Parade on TV. If you’re a football fan, enjoy the game. Buy yourself a prepared turkey dinner and be thankful for the things you do have — rather than those you think you should. by Christine Lynch

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